December 28, 2009

28 Days Later

Filed under: Adoption, Birth mother, Paperwork — adoptation @ 8:14 pm

The call came today. I wasn’t ready for it, but it came anyway.

I’ll bet that no one is ever really ready for this call, the one that says, “A birth mother has picked you.” (Translation: “You will have a baby soon, for real.”) But if there was any one thematic element that had run through all of the stories we’d heard from the agency, from other adoptive families, from adoption-themed blogs, from Lifetime Original Movies, or really from any source that troubled itself with adoption, that theme is: Wait. You will have to wait.

We waited 28 days, and then the call came. This is a full lunar phase, or how long it takes to go through rehab. Noah hadn’t yet seen a ray of sunshine 28 days after the flood began, Obama hadn’t yet become president 28 days after being elected. They told us it would take, on average, 6 – 9 months, but it took fewer days than there are in any month on the calendar, except for our friend February (and in a leap year, not even then).

And that’s not all. The call said that our baby is due in 11 weeks. But, everyone told us: Wait. You will have to wait, even after you get the call. Because humans gestate for 9 months—OK, 10 lunar months, but let’s not get too technical—not for 10 weeks. Imagine getting a call that said, “Hi. You’re now 5 months pregnant.” No one gets that call. But we just did.

Now, after nearly 3 years of nothing (or at least nothing good) when it comes to baby making, there are only 11 weeks left. And that could be 10, gestation being what it is. It’s like being shot out of a slingshot that has been drawn back for months and years, potential energy getting all kinetic with one phone call.

It’s 28 days later, and now there are 11 weeks, followed by 48 hours for the consent forms, then 5 business days for paperwork, then 6 months for more paperwork. And then the rest of our lives. Better get busy, because the waiting is over.



  1. Congratulations!

    Comment by M. — December 29, 2009 @ 11:01 am

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