February 4, 2010

Baby, I’m Yours

Filed under: Adoption, Newborn, Paperwork, Parentood — adoptation @ 5:13 pm

To my son,

Today your mom and I signed the papers that make you officially ours—but they’re really a formality, because we’d both become yours already.

Now I’m sitting in a hotel room, watching your mom feed you. Your first couple of weeks have already been a hell of an adventure, between your premature arrival, our long trip across the country to meet you, your startling progress in the hospital, and now the prospect of beginning to be your dad while living in a hotel room. I’m sure it won’t be long before you’re sick of hearing how the hotel had no cribs, so we converted an empty suitcase into a baby bed…but that’s the story, one of many I’ll enjoy telling about you.

I’m not going to pretend that we don’t all have some challenges ahead. You’re adopted, which means there are even more people who love you like crazy and want the best for you; but I’m also not naive enough to think it won’t be something you’ll have hard questions about. Hopefully my answers will be good ones.

In six months, we have to return to the state where you were born for a final hearing that wraps up the adoption process. The woman from the adoption agency says that the hearing mostly entails your mom and I swearing, under oath, to always love you as much as humanly possible. It’ll be easy to do, because it’s true right now, it’ll be true then, and it’ll be true as long as we’re all together in the family you helped make complete.

Love always,



  1. A newish lurker wanting to say CONGRATULATIONS on the arrival of your son. Congratulations on having him “home” 24/7 with you at the hotel and best wishes for all that lies ahead for your family.

    Your words on this blog are very moving. It’s amazing what many of us have to go through to become a family.

    Comment by Jennette — February 4, 2010 @ 9:48 pm

    • Too true, Jennette. It’s only been a little over a week (and not yet a day on the full-time clock), but it seems pretty clear that all that crap we waded through will have been worth it.

      Comment by adoptation — February 4, 2010 @ 10:02 pm

  2. Awww….I have tears in my eyes. I love this post!

    Comment by Danielle — February 5, 2010 @ 9:08 am

  3. What a wonderful letter…so happy for your little family!!!!

    Comment by Nicole — February 6, 2010 @ 6:52 am

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